HOW TO FANTASIZE
Posted by anthonynorth on May 9, 2008
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YOU KNOW IT’S THE WRITE WAY
HOW TO FANTASIZE
Fantasy is an unusual word. It suggests the fictitious. After all, the most crazy stories are known as fantasy – and I’m not just speaking of ‘swords and sorcery’. Many people seem to live in a fantasy world.
We’re deeply suspicious of them. They are not quite ‘all there’ – or they are habitual liars. Yet all culture is actually geared to fantasy. After all, isn’t art a representation of how an artist’s mind sees something, rather than actual reality itself?
Some would say religions are based on fantasy.
I think this may be true, but this is not a slur on the religionist. Rather, it is honest, accepting that everything in life has a touch of fantasy to it.
The sociologist, Baudrillard, understood this when he devised his concept of ‘infotainment’. Based on modern media, images are so mixed up that we cannot know what is fact and what is fiction.
In one sense, this is the ultimate postmodern nightmare.
But I think ‘reality’ has always been like this. We can understand it through semiotics, or the science of ‘signs’.
A typical sign is a cloud. Depending on its consistency, colour, etc, it convinces us of what the coming weather will be like. In other words, we are convinced of a reality before it actually becomes reality.
Unfortunately, though, signs can lie. Take a can of soup. If hungry, the picture itself can make us salivate. Yet, it could be a lie. It could be a can of worms. The ‘sign’ produced a fantasy so strong that it affected us physiologically as well as psychologically.
Beware of the word, ‘fantasy’. It cons you into thinking it doesn’t apply to you.
© Anthony North, May 2008
TELEPHONE
The telephone rings, it’s always there,
Don’t answer! If you dare;
When just on a desk, or maybe a table,
life wasn’t so bad, ‘cos we were able,
to live a life relatively free,
of constant messages from all to thee;
But come the cell phone, it’s all change,
always with us, as if a chain;
On the train, in the theatre, or even the park,
that damned ring tone, it does hark,
of contact to others all the time,
and if not ours, then other ring tones rhyme,
constantly around us, forever a hell,
giving us no time on which to dwell,
on life without that damned satanic phone,
yet if never a call to us does hone,
we wish someone would ring, ‘cos
we’re all alone
(c) Anthony North, May 2008
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FRIDAY’S FEAST – These are the questions
Appetizer: When someone smiles at you, do you smile back?
Now be careful. This is a dangerous question. There is an automatic suspicion that people who smile at strangers are somehow – well, you know. And even if they’re not, what motive do they have?
Do they want something? What type of smile is it? Have they noticed something about your dress? Have you forgotten to zip up your trousers? Has a bird pooped on your shoulder?
So many possibilities. But yes, usually when someone smiles at me, I smile back. And they wonder, am I all there? Has a bird …
Soup: Describe the flooring in your home. Do you have carpet, hardwood, vinyl, a mix?
Carpets mainly. Which reminds me, we need new. This meme is costing me!
Salad: Write a sentence with only 5 words, but all of the words have to start with the first letter of your first name.
All appliances are always available. (Hey, Zelda, you’ve got no chance!)
Main Course: Do you know anyone whose life has been touched by adoption?
This seems a simple yes/no answer, but it isn’t. If we do know someone, then the answer is yes. But if we don’t, can we answer no? I don’t think we can. And I think this because we cannot be sure.
Maybe we do, but the subject has never come up. Maybe we do, but they don’t know it themselves. Maybe we do, but they hide the fact.
We often adopt an attitude that we know the world, and our friends within it. But a question such as this should make us think. Maybe we should adopt a different attitude to what we think we know, and what we don’t.
Dessert: Name 2 blue things.
Well, I was going to say sea and sky. But they’re not. If we take the sky, it is actually colourless. What we see as ‘blue’ is the effect of light upon the sky. Infact, when you think about it, what is blue?
As a colour it’s no more than a frequency of light. Hence, it doesn’t really exist at all. Infact, many things we attribute blue to are not colours either. Think ‘cold’ or ‘sadness’.
So blue may not be a colour, but an attitude. So can I name two things that are REALLY blue? I can definitely name one.
Movies.
© Anthony North, May 2008
A FANTASTIC DREAM
Dreams are crazy, all full of fantasy,
yet they’re symbols of real life, as you’ll see;
My dream last night was just such a one,
there, in my mind, and as quickly gone;
A plastic bottle from which to drink,
a symbol of mind, full of things to think;
A hockey puck made a quick appearance,
reminders of sport, and my adherence;
wrapped in a dirty handkerchief? This I knew,
recalling that I’d recently had flu;
A crumpled note left me puzzled for a while,
but it was my last poem, not in my style;
The unhinged door was easiest to explain,
’twas my life, all open, ‘cos I’m not vain;
So dreams may be full of much fantasy,
but it’s still related to my life, you see;
A dream can be explained; is not full of malice,
You just fall down the rabbit hole
and meet Alice
(c) Anthony North, May 2008
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TO BE FAITHFUL – Fiction
I never really understood what faithful meant until I wasn’t. All those years of marriage, and never once did I think of being unfaithful. We were as one, and that was that. Until the loneliness crept in – a deep, melancholy loneliness ….
I put up with it for a couple of years, but I suppose the time comes when you can take it no more – when you just need something else in your life.
I met her at one of the functions I have to attend as part of my job. I wouldn’t say I ‘went’ to them, as such. More I just ‘existed’ in them, as if I wasn’t really a part of it, enjoying myself, or anything like that.
Life becomes this way, with such loneliness. But then I saw her, and something just clicked between us, as if it was meant to be.
We dated.
Good grief! We dated. As if I was a teenager!
The meals were enjoyable. And it was inevitable that one thing would lead to another, and eventually I found myself in her home, kissing, making love, discovering a life without loneliness once more.
It was during this first love making that I suddenly looked up to see my wife stood by us.
I jumped, shocked! And as my lover turned to look at her, the full reality of what I’d done struck home.
My wife seemed incensed. It was almost in slow motion as she bent down, her hands encompassing my lover’s neck, and squeezing the life out of her …
I find it hard to recall the event, and even harder to explain it. Indeed, that’s why I’m here, in prison, facing a life sentence for murder.
Well, it was either that or the psychiatric hospital. You see, my wife died two years ago.
© Anthony North, May 2008
Michelle Johnson said
Another wonderful article, Anthony. I loved your Telephone poem but, I have to say that I never answer the phone at my house and my cell is never turned on for longer than it needs to be. I do this because as a teenager I had to answer the phone for my mom and dad all the time. I just got burned out. So, I understand fully what you are implying with this poem. I always try to smile back at someone when they smile at me unless they look rough around the edges. I’ll even say hello to them at times. I try to be very friendly. My life wasn’t touched by full adoption but, my parents did take another person’s child into our home. I can say it was a challenge for me because I was the only child. It was easier getting to know her after I moved out of my parents home. Here is my favorite lines from Fantastic Dream: A plastic bottle from which to drink,
a symbol of mind, full of things to think. And lastly, I loved your story To Be Faithful. It read as though it was from a real experience. Thanks for sharing your post. Have a nice day.
anthonynorth said
Hi Michelle,
Many thanks for that. I’m glad you liked the poem from your prompt – those words certainly got the old grey cells going
As for cell phones – or mobiles, as they’re called over here in the UK – I’ve so far resisted them. I suppose one day I’ll have to succumb. But not yet.
Selma said
Excellent post, as always. Reading your blog is one of the highlights of my day!
Ivanhoe said
I like your spin on the adoption question. Very clever! Great first FF!
anthonynorth said
Hi Selma,
And comments like that make it all worthwhile
Hi Ivanhoe,
I’ve been meaning to have a go at this for some time. Finally taken the plunge.
Brian said
Hello Anthony. I am very impressed at your production. Your prodigious production I might point out is the class of the web. I know, editors don’t think so, but maybe you could write a novel about death. I mean all your short stories deal with mayhem and murder, and then all the topics about the afterlife and mysticism. How about combining them all into one book? About a detective who solves murders from the afterlife by taking over a body until the case is solved.
Hope you have a great weekend and don’t work too hard at putting that new carpet in.
http://hummingbunny.wordpress.com/2008/05/09/phones/
anthonynorth said
Hi Brian,
Now, I have done variations on similar themes in the past. I remember my wife once being in conversation with one of her Christian friends who asked what I wrote.
She said subjects such as the paranormal, detective stories, horror, etc, etc. He said: ‘Doesn’t he write anything nice?’
Oh well.
keith hillman said
Hi
Your posts just get better and better!
Loved your telephone poem – we clearly think along the same lines!
anthonynorth said
Hi Keith,
Thanks for that. I used to do separate posts for WI and SS, but thought it might be fun to combine them today.
Yes, those damned phones
Jean at Penny Lane said
Hi Anthony — Thanks for stopping by Penny Lane earlier, hope you enjoyed your stroll there.
You really went all out in your FF answers and your post.
Cute poem.
anthonynorth said
Hi Jean,
Welcome, and thanks for the comment.
Robin said
I love that last little story – I’m always on pins and needles waiting for that last minute twist! I enjoyed your musings on the fine line between fact and fantasy. I don’t think organized religion could exist without creating its own fantasies – whether you call them fact or call them fiction.
anthonynorth said
Hi Robin,
Thanks for that. I’ve been writing tales with a twist for decades, and I never tire of them. Yes, the difference between reality and fantasy is so fine – often non-existant.
Linda - Practically at Home said
FANTASTIC DREAM . . . amazing that you included all those random-ish prompts and still managed to rhyme!
Blessings,
Linda
Nickers and Ink
SIMPLY SNICKERS – weekly poetry prompts
anthonynorth said
Hi Linda,
Thanks for that. I feel more comfortable with rhyme than other forms, I must admit.
lucy said
Love your telephone Poem! I DO notice when you are feeling lonely, and wishing
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to be found… No one calls Then!
anthonynorth said
Hi Lucy,
Many thanks. This is so true.
Gemma Wiseman said
Love your wanderings on fantasies and then later comment that dreams are symbols. So often dreams are symptoms of our reality.
Gemma
anthonynorth said
Hi Gemma,
Glad you liked them. There is a view that dreams are the debris of our life lived. I’m not sure ‘debris’ is the right word, but they often show it how it is.
stan said
The power of suggestion. Even if we think we’re independent, we have so many influences we don’t always acknowledge.
SweetTalkingGuy said
I like you fictional story ‘To be faithful’ especially the twist at the end.
Two things blue in Manchester would be City and City reserves!
Borski and Nai said
Part of the reason why I enjoy smiling at strangers is the various reactions i get. and yes, most of the people are wary when you smile at them, as if you are up to no good..lol.
really enjoyed reading your FF. thanks for visiting!
anthonynorth said
Good morning Stan,
This is so true. I sometimes think that our thoughts and actions are the result of a ’syndrome’, in that they are a cross between conscious and unconscious thought, combined with social, media and cultural influences.
Hi SweetTalkingGuy,
I’m pleased you liked the story. My home town is York, so I think you’ll excuse me for not commenting further
Hi Borski And Nai,
Many thanks. And you are so right.
Shubd said
Hello
Reality is really peculiar ! Cos’ it is so relevant to each one’s perception of it! The best example being the glass is half full or half empty !
Letting the phone go unanswered is truly a difficult dare as it does take a lot of resolve NOT to answer a phone that’s ringing !
Hmmm…may be I could help Zelda with her 5 word sentence ?
Zany Ziggurats Zigzag, Zooming Zenith-wards !! Ok ..may be I took some liberties with ‘zenith’
If you will permit , may I give you my version of the ‘reality’ of the analysis of your dream ?!
The ‘dirty kerchief’ said to wipe out all evidence that would incriminate you having an ‘unhinged door’ (read mind) like the ‘crumpled note’ on which you penned your ’sighting ‘ while engaged in your ahem ..sport (puck) and the plastic bottle a reminder to put out the garbage that contains the incriminating note !!
Now I do hope that my version of the analysis doesn’t make you mad …but oh! aren’t you already there ??!!!
Thanks for reading “Dream state” . I also wrote one on “Faithful”
http://la-muse07.blogspot.com/2008/05/faithful.html
anthonynorth said
Hi Shubd,
Loved that. Would it make me mad? Absolutely not. Confused, maybe …
I guess I’m just mis-understood
Jane Doe said
I loved your ‘Telephone’ poem. Some days I just want to toss mine in the river to escape it. And, something that occurred to me during reading it, so many people go out for ‘nature walks’ and bring their damn phones with them. I see them on the path around the lake, oblivious to the healing beauty of nature because they are busy arguing with a spouse or closing the next big deal. What ever happened to ‘communing with nature?’
anthonynorth said
Hi Jane Doe,
Thanks for that. I suspect that many people have forgotten what ‘nature’ is.
gautami tripathy said
I have to carry my cell phone as I need to be connected with my mom. I hate it though!
faithfully fantasizing
anthonynorth said
Hi Gautami,
Yes, sometimes it is required. Unfortunately.
Forgetfulone said
Your posts are always so interesting! Thanks for stopping by my feast. I’m sorry I’m so late visiting yours.
anthonynorth said
Hi Forgetfulone,
Many thanks. Nice comments are always appreciated, and can never be late
Just Jen said
Love the telephone poem, nice surprise to come here for WI and see all the prompts too!
anthonynorth said
Hi Just Jen,
Many thanks. I like to mix the prompts. Hopefully, it will encourage people to try more and more.
Anita Marie said
Tony…the title of this post is going to end up linked to nookie blogs.
You devil you
anita marie
totomai said
like the way you connect your real life with the dreams you have.sometimes i feel the same way too
anthonynorth said
Hi Anita Marie,
Then they’ll get quite a shock
Hi Totomai,
Yes, dreams and life are so often interlinked, one a reflection of the other. Only question is, which is real and which is the reflection?
Rambler said
I am amazed at how much you have to say about the topic
btw nice dream
anthonynorth said
Hi Rambler,
Thanks for that. I guess I’m just an opinionated son of a …
Most of my dreams are nice.
Techreef said
I liked the poem on telephone.
We all like to fantasize. My fantasy is to play
anthonynorth said
Hi Techreef,
Thanks for that.
Susan Helene Gottfried said
Awesome twist at the end, Anthony! (how’d I miss it the other day when I was here? Was I blind? Rushed? What?)
Road crews these days wear black — well, depending on who you work for. I have a friend who works for a band that requires ALL employees near the stage to wear black — even the photographers. ’cause, you know, nothing should detract from the rock stars at work. (and we thought my ShapeShifter boys are divas????) So that’s why the roadie in my piece had a t-shirt on. Gotta wear black.
anthonynorth said
Hi Susan,
Thanks for that. Glad you liked the twist.
As for Roadies, in my day they didn’t have to wear black. With me swishing about the stage in purple velvet loons, crucifix sparkling, no one noticed anyone but me
devil mood said
I love that telephone poem, it says it all doesn’t it?
so annoying and useful at the same time!
anthonynorth said
Hi Devil Mood,
Thanks for that. It is indeed. Like so much technology, we can’t live with it, can’t live without it.
bullishmoves said
Fantastic post man. I like the telephone poem. I remember the time when there was no cellphone and it’s now somewhat a love-hate relationship with the cellphone. I also agree with the How to Fantasize post. I think we all live half in reality and half in fantasy. As Shakespeare even said, what we think of reality may just be a dream after all….
anthonynorth said
Hi Bullishmoves,
Thanks for that. And I guess living in the fantasy half is more fun, too.
texasblu said
lol – great stuff. You fantasy at the end really had me going…
anthonynorth said
Hi Texasblu,
Many thanks. I do love it when I pull people into my flash fiction. Your comment is much appreciated.
Nicholas Chorba said
“Some would say religions are based on fantasy. I think this may be true, but this is not a slur on the religionist. Rather, it is honest, accepting that everything in life has a touch of fantasy to it.”
I trust you mean no harm in this statement, but to say it you must not understand religion. True religion is at the core of one’s being. When you endorse that religion of any sort is based on fantasy, you are saying that what these people are building their lives around and living for is nothing. You have essentially told them that their life is meaningless.
So my point is, YES, it IS a slur to the religionist.
anthonynorth said
Hi Nicholas,
The implication in this comment is very close to me. For that reason I’ve included a reply in my today’s Diary post here:
A Marriage and a Slur
Maybe we can get a proper debate going on the issue.
jeques said
Anthony,
Another multitude of reads in one. My mind’s shopping cart is filled with great stuffs from this article. Great post as usual!
I wish you well.
~ Jeques
anthonynorth said
Hi Jeques,
Many thanks. I’m pleased you’re still visiting and enjoying.
orneryswife said
Well, I have now spent way too much time reading here, but I must leave a comment before I go. First, thanks for visiting Miller Manor. I always enjoy your visits and comments.
As I have read several posts and come to this one, I have been trying to figure out just where you stand on the religious issue. I don’t want to judge you, T am merely curious.
In your post here, and later in the post about a slur, you have left me to believe that you might consider religion to be an important social platform, but not necessarily a life altering position. If religion is
“a. Belief in and reverence for a supernatural power or powers regarded as creator and governor of the universe.
b. A personal or institutionalized system grounded in such belief and worship.”
as stated in the free dictionary, then I would have to agree that it is powerless, and could be considered based on a fantasy because we have no visible means of accepting it as reality.
However, my faith in God is more than just a religion. It is a relationship based on what I consider to be truth. Is faith really fantasy? If so, fantasy has power to create reality. It’s been proven repeatedly that when we dwell on certain things they become real, leaving the isolated realm of the mind and being formed into physical reality on the plane we can see.
Can a person see gravity? No, but they can see and feel the effects of it. Can a person hear radio waves? Only if they are in tune with them by using a receiver set to the right frequency. These are “laws of nature” we cannot see or touch, yet they exist, nonetheless.
To me, the relationship between God and His followers is sort of the same thing. I don’t “see” Him but I experience Him and the effects He has on my life. I can only “hear” Him when I am in tune with Him. Sometimes I must use my imagination to “see” the promises He has given me as mine, and sometimes my acceptance of them requires me to “see” beyond the circumstances that are visible to my human eyes. This requires that I believe unswervingly, and unalterably that God’s word is the truth.
You write enough about the paranormal to know that there is a dimension that we are unable to see, yet it is very real. For the Christian, that dimension is where we go to access the “Kingdom of God” that Jesus referred to in the Lord’s Prayer (”thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in Heaven.”) It is the holy place in our hearts where the Holy Spirit dwells.
Religion today is so based on tradition that it barely resembles the relationship between God and man that the Bible teaches. I hear people say all the time that some thing “must be God’s will” yet they are completely unfamiliar with His word to even have an inkling as to what His will might be! So, while I agree that I sometimes must “fantasize” to understand the truth when I can’t see it on this plane, I guess I would have to disagree with you that it is based on fantasy, unless the other laws of nature are fantasized. Just my opinion.
TM
anthonynorth said
Hi Orneryswife,
Thankyou for this very deep comment. It seems to me you have an excellent grasp of your beliefs, and articulate them very well. As for me, I try not to have beliefs, but questions. I tend to ask awkward questions, but in the spirit of enquiry, never to ridicule – except, of course, for the product of humour, which I think is an important human attribute.
I always respect peacefully held beliefs. But what are those beliefs? You end with the comment:
‘ … I guess I would have to disagree with you that it is based on fantasy, unless the other laws of nature are fantasized.’
I would say yes, including all of science. Yet, as you also say:
‘If so, fantasy has power to create reality.’
To which I would say, again, yes. Basically, could it be that we create the world through our knowledge of the world? This seems to be the way the latest fringe sciences are going, placing the ability to ‘observe’ as central to the act of creation.
This aside, I’m convinced that there is something ‘above’ us – notice I say ‘above’, and not ‘other’ than us. In effect, could we be a ‘part’ of something bigger, a component, as it were. But if there is something higher, then it is fair to say there can only be ‘one’.
This leaves me with the problem of the various religions. If there is only ‘one’, why are there so many religions? Well, every religion has a mystical side, and if you strip culture from this mysticism, you end up with identical ingredients.
This suggests to me the existence of an ‘under religion’ that is shared by all. But there is also what I call the ‘over mind’. This is based on local cultures, and is, basically, an interpretation of the spirituality that is felt. This is what we see as religion, enfused with culture, thus making it ‘different’ to other religions by virtue of culture.
If this is right, then an understanding of ‘under religion’ below these cultural expressions could lead to more toleration of other religions – providing, of course, I’m not a naive fool.
Of course, a religion provides incredible belief, which leads to action. And this action leads to a society acting just the same whether their belief is a reality or a fantasy. And seeing that action is the same, it becomes academic whether it IS a reality or a fantasy. There’d be no difference.
I’ve raced through some deep concepts here, and hope you can grasp what I’m trying to say. Basically, I’m trying to build a ‘theory’ of God, born from the ability to question.
orneryswife said
My pastor always says it is not knowledge that will change you but what you do with that knowledge and that you will only get right answers when you ask the right questions. You are, in my opinion, right in that there does appear to be one overshadowing “religion” if you will, and from what I have been led to understand, that would be because all of civilization began with the knowledge of the one true God. It saddens me to think that “religion” has replaced the relationship God desires to have with man.
We have made God into our own image, instead of allowing ourselves to be made into His image, which is what the Bible (Genesis 1:27) states is true. Religion has painted God as an indiscriminate potentate who holds our destiny in His hands, but the Biblical account of creation, which scientists have actually proven to be fairly accurate in the areas they could test it, states that when God made man, He gave him dominion over the earth, and gave him the freedom to choose his own destiny. That man chose sin and all that ensued is not God’s doing, but man’s.
You eluded to the fringe scientists discovering that we create our the world, and that is also scriptural, although not very mainstream in the religious doctrines of most believers. By the fact that we alter the world by simply existing we prove that God’s mandate to “subdue the earth” (Genesis 1:28)or have dominion over it is a relevant command. Scientists estimate that only 10 percent of reality can be experienced with our five senses. The rest is in another unseen dimension.
My thoughts on “trying to build a theory of God born from the ability to question” lead me to the verse in Romans (10:17) that says that faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word of Christ. Paul shares in Acts 17 the following passage:
22Paul then stood up in the meeting of the Areopagus and said: “Men of Athens! I see that in every way you are very religious. 23For as I walked around and looked carefully at your objects of worship, I even found an altar with this inscription: TO AN UNKNOWN GOD. Now what you worship as something unknown I am going to proclaim to you. 24″The God who made the world and everything in it is the Lord of heaven and earth and does not live in temples built by hands. 25And he is not served by human hands, as if he needed anything, because he himself gives all men life and breath and everything else. 26From one man he made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and he determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live. 27God did this so that men would seek him and perhaps reach out for him and find him, though he is not far from each one of us. 28′For in him we live and move and have our being.’ As some of your own poets have said, ‘We are his offspring.’
If you are truly seeking God, He will be found. If you are only seeking to build a theory, that is all you will find. It takes faith, or as you might say fantasy, to trust in that which we cannot see. A theory generally leads to a relevant use, and if there is no intent to accept the truth you discover, then you will only ever have a theory and not the experience.
Thank you for engaging in this dialog. I am not a Bible scholar, and am relatively new to understanding many of the things I have shared with you, although I have been a Christian for almost my whole life. It has been helpful to me to actually put into words what I am learning, and I hope it will help you also, to discover the God of love.
TM